Organisation: Jml Training & Consultancy
Category: Management Tips
Description: Difficult people exist in all walks of life; they can be people with behaviour or attitude problems, time wasters or people who do not like change. It is useful to learn a few techniques to help you manage them with confidence and avoid being manipulated.
Difficult, who me? Start out by examining yourself. Are you difficult? Are you sure that the other person is really the problem and that you're not overreacting? Do you regularly experience difficulty with the same type of person or actions? Do you recognize that you have hot buttons that are easily pushed? You are not alone. We all do, the key is to acknowledge them as bear traps and learn to manage them.
Using an assertive style of behaviour will help to reduce the potential for conflict around you
Remain in control, even in challenging situations
Respect the opinions and actions of others - even if you do not agree with them
Be prepared to negotiate
Express your feelings, both positive and negative
When responding to conflict listen actively to what is being said, listen for feelings and what is not being said. Ask open questions and listen to the answers. Check out your assumptions and understanding
Say when you are angry - providing that anger is justified
Accept responsibility for your own actions and use the 'I' word to own what you say
Some strategies that can change a situation
Deal with things as they arise
Avoid blaming
Build bridges
Set clear boundaries
Stop colluding
Walk away
We all want to be liked and to be accepted by our work colleagues. This can make dealing with problem staff a major challenge for some managers, particularly those new to management or promoted from within a team. As a manager you have the right and the responsibility to tackle difficult people or situations. If you deal with the person assertively you will communicate appropriately. Accept that others may not like what you are saying and doing. Remember, respect is more important at work than friendship.
Change the communication and you change the dynamic! Change what you do, what you say and how you say it. This will create changes in the dynamic between you and other person. You may not always get what you want, but you will certainly be in charge of what happens between the two of you.
If you're going into a situation where it's likely you'll confront a difficult person, set up some ground rules in advance to cover typical problems, for example time limits for talkers in a group meeting.
If there are particular individuals in your life who are predictable problems, practice methods which are custom designed for responding to them.
It's not always possible to solve a situation on the spot. Look for a temporary way out so you can seek a solution in a calmer moment.
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